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Tear Soup Cooking Tips

January 28, 2011 Comments Off on Tear Soup Cooking Tips death, family memorial, grandparents, grief

Tear Soup - A Recipe for Healing After Loss

We have a favorite book in the reception area of the funeral home, Tear Soup – A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen. Over the years, each copy becomes dog eared from all the hands that read it and each year or so we need to purchase a new one. I believe it has helped many people come to terms with the loss of their loved one.  We frequently have families ask to continue sitting in the reception area while they finish the book.

The premise is simple and one we can all understand. Grandy has a loss, one that is too big for her to bear. She chooses a big pot for her loss and begins her recipe. With a big pot she will have plenty of room for all the memories, misgivings and feelings she needs to stew in the pot over time.  Tear soup is a way for Grandy to sort through all the different types of feelings and memories she will have when she loses someone or something special.

Helpful ingredients to consider from Grandy’s recipe:

It’s ok to increase the pot size if you miscalculated. Set the temperature for moderate heat. Cooking times will vary depending on the ingredients needed. Strong flavors mellow over time. Stir often. Cook no longer than you need to. Freeze some as a starter for next time.

You can visit for ordering information, an easy to print recipe page and a link to the Tear Soup Tips page where you will find tips to assist friends, children and men as they make their own tear soup.  *reprinted with permission from Grief Watch, copyright 2006.

Always remember – The only way to take grief out of death is to take love out of life – Shelle